Books for Breaking Up

Here is a list of some of my most beloved breakup books. 


Attached - The Book

Although this book is not exclusively on breakups, it is usually the first book I recommend to my clients. The reason being that our attachment style has a lot to do with why many relationships do not work out, and it also explains why some breakups are so difficult. My clients have found this book really helpful, and often tell me they had a lot of aha moments about their own relationship history. 

Insider Info:

  • Chapter 8 is especially great!
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It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken

by Greg Behrent & Amiira Ruotola

This book reads like a girls night out with your best "Sex in the City" kind of girlfriends. I listened to the audio version version a few times that first 6 months after my broken engagement. This book is light, but insightful. Very quickly you'll feel like Greg & Amiira are two of your biggest cheerleaders.  They remind you over and over again (the way you need during a breakup!) that your breakup happened for a reason, and encourage you to trust this is happening for the best because you deserve to be with someone who really wants to be with you. It's a good starter book for someone recently out of a breakup, before you dive in to the real work working through grief. 

Thank You for Leaving Me: Finding Divinity in Divorce

by Farhana Dhalla

Author Farhana Dhalla is a much-loved coach, speaker and author who offers an honest and raw look at how to recover and rebirth yourself after the end of a marriage. She chronicles the process of going through the 'crunchy' times and arriving at a spiritual awakening where her great realization came in seeing that everything was happening FOR her versus TO her. This profound realization changed the lens in which she views everything making way for the Magnificent life that laid ahead to unfold. This is your possibility too.

During times of crisis, all we need is a good friend who can understand us and make us laugh a little. Thank You for Leaving Me is like reading that good friend's journal and finding yourself understood, intrigued by a new point of view and having bursts of unexpected laughter that hit the core issues in the most disarming way. Thank You for Leaving Me is a guide to finding your way to truth, peace and gratitude enriching your life and relationships with those that matter most to you.